Sunday, March 27, 2011
I am about to give it a TRY
I am a determined type of person. I am a visualised person too. In my life, i have achieved so many things.. and thanks to Allah who gives everything to me. Alhamdullilah... im quite proud of my achievement but i'm still hunger for more..(is it ok to feel like that?) Everyone wants extra in their and so do i. i would like to be successful in my life..succesful? what i mean is, in term of financial freedom. that's what i've been aiming. i want live a better life. provide better life to my family...and i'm thinking of doing 'it' again. It here is business... i have tried one. but well...it failed.. Honestly, really deeply in my heart, and i am able to visualise it that one day i'm going to be a very successful person, wife, mother and teacher...i can do it..and i will do it!
Thursday, February 24, 2011
20 Facts About Daniel
Sunday, February 20, 2011
15 Facts about Me
I am truly grateful to Allah to possess everything that i desired in my life. I am able to have it all..what more could i say. And..the most precious divine endowed by Him is my son Muhammad Adam Daniel Mohd Zhuhaimi.
I am nobody. I am a typical mother who live my life moderately and bring up my a child in my own way.
However, somehow..sometimes..when i read some great achievement about so..and..so son/daughther, i feel so jealous..so envy..why is that so? come to think of it, i blame myself for not being able to teach and bring up my son in achieving great things through his growth..am i that bad..?? I'm a career woman. I punch in at 8 a.m and out at 5 p.m. Sometimes, need to work on weekends. Time...time is what i don't have..really? (just a lame excuse). I only meet him fully at night. I have no chance to observe his growth and development all the time.
There are 15 Facts about me that i realise and somehow make me feel better.
Even though.. I don't have a chance to feed him, pat him to sleep all day, but :
- I always try to give the bestest to my son.
- I always say prayers so that he will be a Soleh son who loves us like we love him.
- I remember every single things that happened to him through his development.
- My instinct and responsibilties always save the day.
- I make an effort to teach and train him Du'a, languages, speaking, reading and doing maths.
- I always read to him before he's asleep every night.
- I teach him new vocabulary everyday.
- I always take him to his favourite places.
- I know when he is hungry or not.
- I know when he needs to get to bed.
- I know what he means when the others don't.
- I always sing his favourite 'Thomas and Friends' song.
- I always play whatever he likes to play.
- I know what are his favourite meal.
- I always knwo if he's not feeling well.
And I'm just an ordinary mother who wants to embrace my son's excellence in his life.
truly I love you Muhammad Adam Daniel..
love,
Mommy
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Bright Ideas for Parents..
Understand the importance and purpose of good communication with children.
Identify and overcome obstacles to positive, effective communication.
Step Three:
Finding solutions means overcoming each obstacle as it comes along, and learning as you go.
Step Four:
Once you establish positive communication with a child, work to maintain it and improve it daily.
We as P.A.R.E.N.T.S...
Why: Kids take labels to heart. Describe the behavior, not the child.
What's better: "The cup you poured the juice into was too small, so it overflowed. Let's clean it up."
Why: Again, negative labels hurt. Focus on the specific behavior instead.
What's better: "You're crying because you're mad. But I can't help you until you calm down."
Why: Your child isn't Mary. Comparisons incite resentment instead of cooperation.
What's better: "You seem to be having trouble with that. Let me help you."
Why: An emotional response gives the child no incentive to behave.
What's better: "Please stop [name the behavior]."
Why: Guilt trips won't get you very far. Appeal to your child's desire to please.
What's better: "Please stop [name the behavior]."
Why: Instead of focusing on your personal sacrifices, ask why your child is acting up.
What's better: "Why are you running away? If you're not hungry, I'll set aside the cookies for later."
Why: Threats frighten, but they don't teach.
What's better: "Please stop doing that."
Why: Your child's feelings are legitimate. Discounting them undermines his confidence.
What's better: "Are you afraid of the thunder? It's just the noises that the clouds make. Hold my hand and you'll feel better."
Why: It's vague and shaming.
What's better: "You must be angry. But you can't take out your anger on your sister."
Why: Sarcasm is belittling and destructive, not empathetic and instructive.
What's better: "It's just an accident. Let's clean it up."
Why: Bribes beget bribes; not everything is negotiable.
What's better: "It's time to go to the bank."
Why: These words are devastating to a child's confidence. If you really thought that, why did you set your child up for a fall?
What's better: "It's okay. You're not ready for that. We'll try again later when you're a little older."
Why: Often your child doesn't know or can't articulate it. Instead, volunteer your observations.
What's better: "You grabbed the baby's toy and made him cry. What's a better way you could've gotten it?"
1) The command. "No splashing in the tub."
2) An explanation. "It makes the floor slippery and dangerous."
3) The consequences. "If you keep splashing, you'll have to get out of the tub."
4) An alternative. "Here's a cup you can use to pour with."
Assalamualaikum W.B.T
I am a determined type of person. I am a visualised person too. In my life, i have achieved so many things.. and thanks to Allah who gives everything to me. Alhamdullilah... im quite proud of my achievement but i'm still hunger for more..(is it ok to feel like that?) Everyone wants extra in their and so do i. i would like to be successful in my life..succesful? what i mean is, in term of financial freedom. that's what i've been aiming. i want live a better life. provide better life to my family...and i'm thinking of doing 'it' again. It here is business... i have tried one. but well...it failed.. Honestly, really deeply in my heart, and i am able to visualise it that one day i'm going to be a very successful person, wife, mother and teacher...i can do it..and i will do it!
Assalamualaikum
I am truly grateful to Allah to possess everything that i desired in my life. I am able to have it all..what more could i say. And..the most precious divine endowed by Him is my son Muhammad Adam Daniel Mohd Zhuhaimi.
I am nobody. I am a typical mother who live my life moderately and bring up my a child in my own way.
However, somehow..sometimes..when i read some great achievement about so..and..so son/daughther, i feel so jealous..so envy..why is that so? come to think of it, i blame myself for not being able to teach and bring up my son in achieving great things through his growth..am i that bad..?? I'm a career woman. I punch in at 8 a.m and out at 5 p.m. Sometimes, need to work on weekends. Time...time is what i don't have..really? (just a lame excuse). I only meet him fully at night. I have no chance to observe his growth and development all the time.
There are 15 Facts about me that i realise and somehow make me feel better.
Even though.. I don't have a chance to feed him, pat him to sleep all day, but :
- I always try to give the bestest to my son.
- I always say prayers so that he will be a Soleh son who loves us like we love him.
- I remember every single things that happened to him through his development.
- My instinct and responsibilties always save the day.
- I make an effort to teach and train him Du'a, languages, speaking, reading and doing maths.
- I always read to him before he's asleep every night.
- I teach him new vocabulary everyday.
- I always take him to his favourite places.
- I know when he is hungry or not.
- I know when he needs to get to bed.
- I know what he means when the others don't.
- I always sing his favourite 'Thomas and Friends' song.
- I always play whatever he likes to play.
- I know what are his favourite meal.
- I always knwo if he's not feeling well.
And I'm just an ordinary mother who wants to embrace my son's excellence in his life.
truly I love you Muhammad Adam Daniel..
love,
Mommy
Understand the importance and purpose of good communication with children.
Identify and overcome obstacles to positive, effective communication.
Step Three:
Finding solutions means overcoming each obstacle as it comes along, and learning as you go.
Step Four:
Once you establish positive communication with a child, work to maintain it and improve it daily.
Why: Kids take labels to heart. Describe the behavior, not the child.
What's better: "The cup you poured the juice into was too small, so it overflowed. Let's clean it up."
Why: Again, negative labels hurt. Focus on the specific behavior instead.
What's better: "You're crying because you're mad. But I can't help you until you calm down."
Why: Your child isn't Mary. Comparisons incite resentment instead of cooperation.
What's better: "You seem to be having trouble with that. Let me help you."
Why: An emotional response gives the child no incentive to behave.
What's better: "Please stop [name the behavior]."
Why: Guilt trips won't get you very far. Appeal to your child's desire to please.
What's better: "Please stop [name the behavior]."
Why: Instead of focusing on your personal sacrifices, ask why your child is acting up.
What's better: "Why are you running away? If you're not hungry, I'll set aside the cookies for later."
Why: Threats frighten, but they don't teach.
What's better: "Please stop doing that."
Why: Your child's feelings are legitimate. Discounting them undermines his confidence.
What's better: "Are you afraid of the thunder? It's just the noises that the clouds make. Hold my hand and you'll feel better."
Why: It's vague and shaming.
What's better: "You must be angry. But you can't take out your anger on your sister."
Why: Sarcasm is belittling and destructive, not empathetic and instructive.
What's better: "It's just an accident. Let's clean it up."
Why: Bribes beget bribes; not everything is negotiable.
What's better: "It's time to go to the bank."
Why: These words are devastating to a child's confidence. If you really thought that, why did you set your child up for a fall?
What's better: "It's okay. You're not ready for that. We'll try again later when you're a little older."
Why: Often your child doesn't know or can't articulate it. Instead, volunteer your observations.
What's better: "You grabbed the baby's toy and made him cry. What's a better way you could've gotten it?"
1) The command. "No splashing in the tub."
2) An explanation. "It makes the floor slippery and dangerous."
3) The consequences. "If you keep splashing, you'll have to get out of the tub."
4) An alternative. "Here's a cup you can use to pour with."